Wait so you don't have to be perfect?

This year has been absolutely crazy. I think I have learned more about myself this year than I ever have before, for the good and the bad. So this is what I have discovered.... I am not perfect and I am so okay with that! I have always tried to be the perfect daughter...sister....wife...niece....cinderella girl and friend. But I just can't be this perfect person that people think I am or what I think I am. Sometimes I don't have it all together, my life has been anything but balanced this past year. Sometimes I am not too keen on helping people but  I do it anyways. Or I  do things because I feel really guilty and I am a huge people pleaser. another thing is I will listen  and hear how wonderful people's lives are and I try to rejoice with them even though my life feels like a complete mess and sometimes makes me sad.  But lately I am really trying to learn to say no if I really don't want to do something. Or I just try to keep my mouth shut so I don't feel like I need to compete with other people's lives.
It is hard because I truly feel like a couple of years ago I was very balanced, I was at the peak of everything and my life was like a dream. But I am learning as I grow into this new person that I am becoming, that it's okay not to be fully balanced or have it all together. I am learning to be happy and not to put too much pressure on myself.
So what did I do to give myself a break from umm myself? Disneyland! I had an absolute blast! I'm learning  not to take life so seriously and what better way to do that then go to a place where it is perfect to be carefree! I will blog about that later.
Anywho life is getting so so much better. Parker has really helped me through this crazy journey of mine and I feel blessed to have him.






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