Free to dream in a marriage!

Our four year wedding anniversary is coming up and because of that our marriage has been on my mind. I know marriage can be a personal topic but I also think it can be therapeutic to talk about marriage. 

Parker and I have definitely had our ups and downs but one thing that has stayed constant and that is, we are constantly growing and working each day to make our marriage better. 

We have been through a lot like almost too much to handle but somehow we always come out on top. I recently had an epiphany about the past five years we have been together. We got together when we were twenty years old and according to research that is the prime age to really find who you are. So we got married and Parker was focusing on himself and I was focusing on the marriage. 

The next few years I saw Parker blossom he kept receiving raises, losing weight, and just all around being confident in himself and becoming better. Well I literally lost myself I was finding the weight Parker was losing, I got laid off from a job and I couldn't find one that was stable, it was some of the hardest years I had been through. 

But eight months ago I decided to completely focus on myself. I went on a self help journey and ended up finding myself again. I just completely focused on school, my health, my spirituality and work. It was a great opportunity and I'm so thankful I had the chance to do it. Although this was hard on Parker that I wasn't totally focusing on our marriage he knew it was necessary for me. 

So what's my epiphany? I have learned that a marriage is for two people who love and support each other through their own journeys in life. I should have fully supported Parker while he was finding himself and becoming a better version of himself. Although it was confusing and sometimes hard for Parker to let me go on this journey, he did support me. 

Our marriage has changed because of my journey, it made us realize we love each other so much that whatever transition or journey we go through the other person is there to support the other. I love our new approach on our marriage because I am free to focus on my dreams and Parker is as well but at the end of the day of our pursuits we know we are there to give each other love and support.