Becoming a mom


 I have been wanting to write about my experience on becoming a mom for awhile. However, finding time is a whole different story but I found it today while Jagger is laying on me fast asleep!
 Before I got pregnant I remember nannying and thinking to myself, "I am so glad I get to leave at the end of the day." I remember holding my my little buddy and thinking, "I'm glad this is not my life." Don't get me wrong, I love and adore all of the kids I have nannied for but I wasn't ready for my own at that time.
Fast forward almost three years later and I'm holding my little Jagger thinking, "I'm so happy this is my life!" There is something special about having a baby of my own and becoming his mom. People would always tell me that it would be different with your own child but I had a hard time believing them. Luckily they were right. 
As I have transitioned to a mom I have learned a lot about my strengths and weaknesses. I quickly learned how natural it was for me to be a mom and how quickly I could identify his needs and wants. Granted he is the easiest baby ever but this boosted my self confidence.  
 I also learned that I can get overwhelmed with day to day obligations, like cleaning, paying bills making myself and Parker a priority. I always joke and say, "The world needs to stop until I figure this whole baby thing out." Unfortunately it doesn't so I just try to be patient with myself and understand that one day things will become normal again, well at least the "new normal." 

What else on becoming a mother? I will tell you my honest truth... 

•My motherhood isn't very glamorous.

1. I am literally in my pjs 96% of the time.
Why? 
 A. I don't care because I am home all day. 
 B. I'm still having hot flashes like I am a fifty year old woman going through menopause. 
 C. My clothes still don't fit. Which leads me to number two... 

2. My clothes don't fit! Haha 
 A. This baby weight won't go away. Everyone said if you breastfeed the pounds will melt right off unless you're me.. Unfortunately that isn't always the case and lucky me I am one of them that get to keep the pounds on until I am finished breastfeeding. Lame! 

3. My hair has fallen out in clumps!!! Say what?? Yeah I heard of it but I thought I was in the clear. Four months later and boom! Clumps of hair everywhere! It doesn't help that Jagg pulls my hair out as well. (sigh) 

• My motherhood is the best thing that has ever happened to me! How does that work? I know I just complained about my looks going to hell after having this little "look sucker baby" but it's the best! 

1. Jagger! Need I say more? He is the happiest and easiest baby I have ever known. Seriously I have known a lot of babies in my life and I can I easily say he is the easiest and happiest! 

Motherhood is hard because your mind is always focused on them. They are always the number one priority even if you are completely stretched out thin. Everyone else including yourself might as well hop in line and pray that one day I get to them. It's a juggling act at its finest. It's the most unglamorous situation I have been in, including camping haha But it's also the best! 
 You are stretched thin but somehow you still keep going. You think you are at your breaking point but then you get inspiration to push through. You find out you are seriously one strong person and think, "If I can do this, I can do anything!" You realize you were made to do this and it brings you comfort. Lastly you get moments when my Jagger looks at me, laughs, smiles, grabs my hand or even cries and my heart melts. You then think this is what it's all about. 
So yeah motherhood is hard but it's also what I was meant to do and it is so rewarding.
I can't imagine my life without him. Little Jagg you are my whole world and becoming your mom is the best thing that has ever happened. 





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